G C Lichtenberg: “It is as if our languages were confounded: when we want a thought, they bring us a word; when we ask for a word, they give us a dash; and when we expect a dash, there comes a piece of bawdy.”

Shel Silverstein : “Talked my head off Worked my tail off Cried my eyes out Walked my feet off Sang my heart out So you see, There’s really not much left of me.” ~

Martin Amis: “Gogol is funny, Tolstoy in his merciless clarity is funny, and Dostoyevsky, funnily enough, is very funny indeed; moreover, the final generation of Russian literature, before it was destroyed by Lenin and Stalin, remained emphatically comic — Bunin, Bely, Bulgakov, Zamyatin. The novel is comic because life is comic (until the inevitable tragedy of the fifth act);...”

Werner Herzog: “We are surrounded by worn-out, banal, useless and exhausted images, limping and dragging themselves behind the rest of our cultural evolution.”

John Gray: "Unlike Schopenhauer, who lamented the human lot, Leopardi believed that the best response to life is laughter. What fascinated Schopenhauer, along with many later writers, was Leopardi’s insistence that illusion is necessary to human happiness."

Justin E.H. Smith: “One should of course take seriously serious efforts to improve society. But when these efforts fail, in whole or in part, it is only humor that offers redemption. So far, human expectations have always been strained, and have always come, give or take a bit, to nothing. In this respect reality itself has the form of a joke, and humor the force of truth.”

विलास सारंग: "… . . 1000 नंतर ज्या प्रकारची संस्कृती रुढ झाली , त्यामध्ये साधारणत्व विश्वात्मकता हे गुण प्राय: लुप्त झाले...आपली संस्कृती अकाली विश्वात्मक साधारणतेला मुकली आहे."

Sunday, December 30, 2007

Faking Friends for Fame

Times of India November 25, 2007:

“…Competition for friends can be so fierce that some have even resorted to faking friend lists. Sixteen-year-old Mohit Kapoor, for example, has put up 20 benami profiles and keeps scrapping himself daily. "This not only pads the number of scraps I receive, but I can also brag about things indirectly," grins Mohit.

This kind of obsessing before the computer about unreal friends who don't really give a fig about you has unhealthy consequences, especially for introverts who don't have a life in the real world. "There are a lot of people who go online looking for friends because they don't have them elsewhere," says Dr Harish Shetty, a Mumbai-based psychiatrist. "So, the online friends become their universe, and even a slight rejection or snub becomes a big issue."

This brought back memories of Devyani Chaubal (1942-1995), a film gossip journalist. She reportedly faked friends, stars of Hindi film industry, from Raj Kapoor to Rajesh Khanna.

Subhash Bhende सुभाष भेंडे drew a delightful Marathi word-caricature of her- "Sharmishtha Godambe शर्मिष्ठा गोडांबे"

We may or mayn't know clandestine Mohit Kapoors but we get to know many Sharmishtha Godambes in our life.

I have lost their count.


Artist: Barney Tobey The New Yorker 23 October 1978

2 comments:

mangesh said...

Blog on online(fake) friends is interesting.We were born and brought up in a circle of offline friends.
However, I must admit that I am more frank and bold when I commuicate my online friends, especially members of opposite sex. This happens like a reflex action.
The description of Devayaanee Chaubal is not correct. She really had close relations with Rajesh Khannaa, Rajkapoor and others. I was her fan and had met her. She could have used my name to popularise her column. But she didn't. Subhaash Bhende doesn't know the magic in her personality. She was free, frank and fearless. Her unorthodox approach to the style and content was fascinating.

aniruddha g. kulkarni said...

Mangesh,

I lapped up every word Chaubal wrote. I really liked her writing. Since she died I lost all interest in filmy gossip.

But it was possible that she was 'faking' part of it. Many of us do it from time to time.

I guess Bhende was commenting o that aspect.

Nevertheless his essay is excellent. As good as Chaubal's best.